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I’m opening up about that strange feeling after a big win when you realize you want something different, and I’m walking you through the exact clarity process I use to get back in alignment. We do a no-limits brain dump, use my Creator’s Canvas to assess each area of life, and talk about prioritizing without stressing the how. I share a personal pivot I made when I realized I wanted memories and ease more than an investment property, plus the questions I ask myself to let go of goals that no longer fit without guilt. If you’re at a crossroads or your desires are evolving, this one will help you define your next chapter based on who you’re becoming.
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Welcome to the abundant at the top podcast
I'm Brittany Fox your host
have you ever reached a massive goal
the promotion the business milestone
the financial win
only to wake up the next day wondering if there's more
even if you'd only took you a day
for me it's happened
even moments later after hitting that goal
I've been there many times
I remember hitting a point in my business
where everything looked perfect from the outside
eight figures in revenue national recognition
and a company that people would dream of leading
but inside I felt this quiet question echoing
is this what I actually want
that moment
was the beginning of a new kind of clarity for me
because most of us were taught
to chase goals that sound impressive
not to create lives that actually feel aligned
we're following scripts
written by someone else's definition of success
so we hit the milestone we check the box
post the highlight
and then realize it's not the thing our soul was after
that's what this episode is all about
getting clear on what you truly want
because clarity creates power
and until you're clear
you'll keep confusing motion with meaning
today I'm gonna walk you through the process
I use with women inside of she created
to reconnect with their authentic desires
the kind that aren't filtered through expectations
obligations or fear
we'll talk about what happens when your desires change
how to pivot without guilt
and how to give yourself full permission to want more
even when others
would love to walk in your current shoes
by the end of this episode
you'll know exactly how to start defining
what your next chapter looks like
not based on who you used to be
but on who you're becoming
if you know a woman who's at the crossroads
maybe she's accomplished everything
she thought she wanted and is now asking
what is next send her this episode
because clarity doesn't just change your goals
it changes your direction
let's dive in
last week we talked about the creation cycle
and the first step was to become aware
if you wanna learn more about that
go back to the previous episode
to learn about awareness
and today
we're gonna dive in more on the clarity section
what does clarity mean clarity is all about
getting clear on what you truly want
and as someone who is a fellow high achiever
anyone else in the room
I know all about setting goals and hitting them
I am very tactically driven
I run all of the quarterly planning
yearly planning sessions for our company
we we run our business on something called EOS
if anyone has ever heard of it
the entrepreneur operating system
it's a really great system to run your business
if you are 500 employees or less
and really to help you become the owner of your company
versus the operator so
I was the integrator for most of the time
at my staffing company Focus GTS
and I would be the one
who would set the different goals
the vision
and make sure that this was actually happening
so this is one of my favorite tactical conversations
and we're gonna talk tactical today
yes but
I believe that
you probably already have a lot of tactics
that you probably already have
a good system for setting goals
or you wouldn't be where you're at today
but I wanna dive into the second part of getting clear
which is what do you really want
what is it that you're truly after
I know for me personally
as an Enneagram 3 high achiever
the achiever is uh
that number in the Enneagram
and I'm such a goal setter and hitter
and I realized that achievement is a big thing for me
and also with the way that I grew up
and I knew that I wanted a bigger life for myself
I knew I would have to achieve a lot of things
and it motivated me it drove me
and it helped me get to the place that I am today
and I never want to discount that journey
I think sometimes
when we get to the other side of the achievement
where we build the life we're there
we think oh
now we don't have to maybe
acknowledge that area of our life
or that time because I do believe for a lot of us
there are a season of accomplishments
of going after the goal getting the college degree
working the corporate ladder
putting in the sweat equity of that startup
I mean there are seasons in life and a time and place
but I think if you're listening to this podcast
you might be on the next phase
and even if you're not this is a great awareness
to help you prepare for the next phase
which is to get clear on what you truly want
you've accomplished the things
now what now what do you want
what do you truly want
when I'm going to create anything new in my life
what I really love to do is to create space
as we talked about last time
pausing to become aware but once I become aware
to get clear
and what does clarity look like
in this season of my life
and spending time being inspired
is such a key for getting clarity
because I'm in that dreaming stage
I'm envisioning what is possible
and this is the season
where you're really not allowing any limitations
this is the moment
where you are thinking of all the possibilities
you're letting go of those old stories right
like we talked about in the awareness phase
that you're working on those limiting beliefs
there's nothing that can hold you back
so what do you truly want
give yourself that permission
write it down girl
get out that pen and paper and write it down
type it out talk to chat GBT
do all the things and really vision
ask chat GPT
what are all the possibilities of what I could create
at this phase of my life I've done this
this and that
what's next and what is it that I want
ask it to interview you what are some hobbies
and I know that sounds cliche
and it is right
there's some hobbies
but maybe it's a different type of business
I know for me this was a huge clarity shift
I mean I had the success of the business
of building the company
coming into our ninth year of the staffing company
but a new level of clarity was
was she created
is to become a different type of business
this is what I really want
this is what I really wanna be doing with my life
is to helping other women be the creators of their life
and it isn't what I thought that I would be doing
I thought that I would be with my staffing company
all the way through to an exit
running it on a daily basis
but it actually looks different
and I'm loving it because I also gave myself permission
to pivot along the way so
with getting clear
so you're gonna start by writing things down
and again I know you have these tactics
I know you've heard all of these things
but there's a difference in hearing them and doing them
so if you haven't been writing down your goals
let's do what I call a brain dump session
where you take all the possibilities
all the things all the desires
and you write them down don't let yourself be held back
just go just write
just put it all on paper you can then prioritize
what you want to actually start to do
first in your life but just write it out for now
there's no harm in writing it down
brain dump all of the ideas
and during this time too
don't worry about the how
don't worry about how are you gonna make this a reality
we are going to get there
and as I've mentioned before
so much of our work is psychology
it's not the how girl
you've made it this far you don't need another how
you can figure it out I know you now okay
you've written them down you're gonna prioritize
so at my retreats and a tool I use to design my life
is called the Creator's Canvas
this is all the different categories of my life
and I use a process to see where I'm currently at
I like to assess to address
so on a scale of one to 10
I rank the different categories in my life
to start to think about
what new goals I want to create in different areas
and so you're in the creation cycle right now
you're thinking about something
it is you want to get clear on
maybe this tool
is something that you could use
to think about the different categories of your life
and which ones are below an 8
I mean anything below a B ladies
I don't think is acceptable for us
so I want you to think
about the different areas of your life
you can get my creator cycle
downloadable here in the podcast
use this template
and assess to address where you're currently at
and then you can use this
to start to navigate towards what you truly want
and to get even more clear to set these goals
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you've set the goal you've got clear
you've looked at the different areas of your life
and you're on that journey
you're starting to do the inner work
you are taking your aligned action towards this goal
and I wanna talk about what happens along the journey
as maybe your desires change
maybe there's a life circumstance that has changed that
this goal is no longer in alignment
and often times I think for women
it's harder for us to pivot because of guilt and shame
especially for me as a high achiever
I feel if I don't hit a goal that I set out to do
it means failure and failure is often not an option for
for us high achievers we just don't allow ourselves
but I've what I've Learned through failure actually
not that I think this would be failure if you pivoted
but failure is some of our best teaching
it's some of our best moments to actually grow
and get to that next level
and achieve even more but to stay on the point of
what happens when we want to pivot
so I can give you an example
a couple years ago my husband and I
we wanted to buy a second home
and investment property over in Naples Florida
it's a place that we love
we live in Miami and we were going there a lot
we were going maybe every six weeks
and we just thought about
how great it would be to have a place
it's a high rental market
we could rent it out when we weren't using it
and we started making all these plans
and looking at different properties
and we we're just man
we were having a hard time though
like putting in the time
to even make this investment a reality
and what we slowly realized was that we could still
have the same outcome and experience
that we were looking for without all the hassle
because if you've ever bought real estate
you know that it sounds great until you have it
and then oh
you have to fix the roof is leaking
the water pipe bursted there's
there's always something
and we realized we could get to the same outcome
without having the same constraints
and also the negative side of what it was
and while we also wanted it to be a stream of income
for us we realized there were some other things
that we could be doing to make that possible
as well so we ended up pivoting
and it was a little sad for me
because I I wanted that
just that homie
knowing you could go somewhere
set up your own stuff
but I realized for what I really wanted though
was the experience and memories
with my family over in Naples
because we have such a great time
we go to the beach I know we live in Miami
but it's crazy how we often times don't go to the beach
not often times we go to the beach
maybe every two months if I'm lucky
and I realized that I I wanted those experiences
and I could still have that by traveling over there
well this wasn't a failure
this was a conscious choice to pivot to
what I really wanted was the experience
not the home not the thing
I just wanted to be with my family on the beach
and in a relaxed environment
and if we would have bought a house
I don't think that would have
it would have changed
because when you stay at a hotel versus at a
at your home it would become projects
and so we were able to still get that outcome
so I wanna talk about some things you could do
if you're looking at pivoting
if you're at that place where you're like man
I wanna keep going I don't wanna seem like a failure
but some questions you could ask yourself
of course you gotta pause
be able to ask yourself these questions
instead of just continuing the
to achieve achieve
achieve is to pause and ask
is this goal still aligned with who I'm becoming
or just who I was when I set
set this goal think about that too
because we evolve so much in a year
I know when I start my goals for the year that I am
I'm very committed to them
but sometimes by Q3 like
why didn't I want that goal
but I'm such a different person now
so ask yourself
is the goal still aligned with who you're becoming
the second thing is to ask yourself
and I guess more it's
give yourself permission
to let go of what no longer serves you
and as women I think we're very loyal
and we wanna even be loyal to our goals
or if we told people
if we feel like we're gonna disappoint anyone
but the only person we're really disappointing
is ourselves
by holding on to something that no longer serves us
and redirect your energy
towards what feels expansive to you now
like
what feels aligned and more with who you're becoming
now
the creation cycle is an ongoing evolution process
and you'll get clear and clear as you go
throughout the cycle as you start to do the inner work
you might even come back and make some adjustments
to this clarity of what it is that you truly want
because you're gonna be evolving
you're gonna be becoming
so go ahead do the brain dump
write out your goals
see what it is that you want to get really clear about
grab my PDF here of the Creator's Canvas
where you can assess
to address the different areas of your life
set some goals in those specific areas
and you can start becoming who it is that you're after
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